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My son is 16 years
old. He fails to comply with any rules of the
house. There have been terrible fights wherein he
has also pushed me and slapped me. He has constant
complains and remarks from school for aggressive
and abusive behaviour. Please help? |
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What you have
described here is probably a classic case of
" conduct disorder" which could worsen without
timely intervention as it is not a "passing phase"
in a teenager's life. Your family should consult
with a psychiatrist who can evaluate the symptoms
and guide you with defined rules, boundaries and
consequences for this behaviour. Psychotherapy and
counseling is a must, which will connect your
son's feelings to his reactive behaviour. Family
therapy sessions and medications too are useful. |
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I am an 18 years old
girl. I have just broken up with my boyfriend and
I know that I have lost all my self - esteem and
confidence. I feel like cutting or hurting myself
and I think of death a lot. I cannot talk to my
parents as they are old fashioned and I feel
isolated |
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Dear Preena, what
you have described shows that you are going
through "clinical depression." A break up can be
very traumatic, but as you've stated above, you
have done the right thing. Depression can make a
person feel incapacitated and not in control as "neuro
- chemicals" in your brain have been imbalanced,
making you feel this way. Suicidal ideations are a
part of the symptoms of depressions and need to
seek help through a counselor, where you will get
a chance to express inner feeling and emotions.
Please do take that first step and seek help -
it's all there! |
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Dear Sir, I am 25
years old. I am an ambivalent person, I get along
well with people but only after a period of time.
How can I become more comfortable with people,
especially strangers? Also, I am not too good at
basic grooming skills. Are there websites or books
that can help ? |
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"A smile" is the
most important non verbal communication skill. It
helps to break 'the ice' between strangers. The
first four seconds when you meet someone are the
most crucial. Remember you can be superficially
polite but naturally rude. For basic grooming
skills you can consider doing a course in
personality development at the Personality School
(22029541 / 42) |
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I come from a
vernacular medium background. I am scared of
making friends or approaching people in college. I
do not have a good personality because I cannot
speak good English. Please help. |
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Suganhi Padwa |
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You can have broken
English skills but a terrific personality. you can
speak the Queens English but have a bad
personality. Personality has nothing to do with
speaking fluently in English. It is to do with
positive attitude, enthusiasm and energy display.
Garry's note for the day Body Language : Several
years ago. I attended a seminar in Chicago
conducted by one of the top speakers of America. I
was intrigued with the speech and I went backstage
to meet with this celebrity. This person is 6'6"
in height I am about 5'6" in all, but standing
next to me, I actually thought he was shorter to
me. The way his body was placed, to make me
comfortable and not intimidated, spoke volumes
about his personality. That day I understood the
meaning of "Body language". |
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Personality Guru Gautam Garry Guptaa at
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Hi Garry, I am 20
years old. Since childhood, I have had a problem
of stammering, due to which I face a lot of
difficulty in communicating with others. Is there
any solution ? |
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XYZ |
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It would be a good
idea to consult a speech therapist. There are two
hospitals offering speech therapy in Mumbai, Mata
Lachmi (Sion), All Yavar Jung, bandra (W).
According to personality Gurus across the world,
always convert all your weaknesses into strengths
for yourself. Try top convert your weakness into
humour, charm and accept that there is a problem. |
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Hi, I am 28 years
old. I can barely converse in English. I am unable
to speak during group discussions. I wish to
develop my personality and language skills. |
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To develop a better
proficiency in English, you need to join an
English speaking course. It comes in three levels
: the basic, the intermediate and the advanced.
For group discussions and debates you should join
a personality development workshop where you get
trained in all aspects of persona - building,
including mock interview sessions. |
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I am 23 years old,
and have completed electronics engineering. I am
always excited and restless. I often tell myself
before an interview, "Calm down Sarfy" and do
things like breathing deeply and counting
backwards. I am a confident and outspoken man
otherwise. |
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Sarfy,
physical exercise is something you can always rely
on because it helps reduce stress, anxiety and
fatigue. Walking, yoga or physical training is
some forms of exercise. To divert your attention
just before an interview, read a book or listen to
music that relaxes you. |
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I would like to gift
a tie to my boy friend. What should be the ideal
size ? |
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Jenny Malhotra |
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When choosing a tie,
the first thing you want to consider is the length
of the tie. The length of the tie should be 57 -
58 inches, the width of the tie at the broadest
end should be 9.5 centimeters. |
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Is a good
personality inherent or can you really work on
having one? |
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Dear Naved,
personality is an art. Though art is inherent,
personality can be developed and the skills of
communication can definitely be inculcated. A
positive mind, healthy attitude and the
willingness to serve humanity through
communication can go a long way in developing a
good personality. |
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What is the best
compliment I can give my husband ? What do you
think he will appreciate the most ? |
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A survey was
conducted last year as to what it is that a man
likes to hear about himself the most. A lot of
people thought it would be having a good
personality. But 84 percent of the men who
answered the questionnaire voted for being called
a 'Workaholic'. Yes that's true. |
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Dear Garry, I work on
a senior level in a public sector undertaking.
Somehow, I always feel I perform better when I
independently handle any assignment rather than
under somebody who, in my opinion, is not superior
in skill or knowledge. I introspect a lot about my
personality and have a feeling that I am somehow
not natural in my inter - personal relationships.
I feel uncomfortable around people whom I don't
share common interests with. I do not know how to
take a conversation further. |
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Krishna, you could
consider doing a course in inter - personal
skills, which would help you enhance your
personality and make you extremely accessible in
society. For a good course, call The personality
School at 22029541 / 42 |
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Never Say "No".
According to the "moments of truth," every time
you say "No" in life, you close a wardrobe of
opportunities and every time you say "Yes," you
open a world of prospects. |
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Being the fortunate
one to be invited as the chief guest of The Rotary
Club (Bombay Sea Face), I realized how important
it is for people to be successful and identify the
definition of the term success. Many people who
had achieved success wanted to know how to
maintain it. The enthusiasm of the people
attending the programmed encouraged me to devise a
formula for success called the Ten Cs - on how to
become successful. An interesting conclusion also
seemed to have appeared : Success is, after all, a
journey, not a destination. Somebody told Dr.
Isaac Newton, "Sir, I think you are excellent." He
replied, " I am still picking pebbles from the sea
of knowledge." |
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Write to
garygucci2000@hotmail.com to get your
queries answered by personality expert Gautam
Garry Guptaa, Director (personality development
and corporate training division) of The
Personality School Mumbai. Or call on 65259077 / 9769821729 |
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Hi Garry ,I have secured 85 per cent in SSC and wish to evaluate different options for a
career. please help . |
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Congratulations Sadaf!
Eighty five per cent is an excellent score. There are many counselors in
Mumbai who can help you decided the course you would like to accomplish and
the country you would like to pursue it form. You can call one of top
most counselors in Mumbai at ECO Pvt. Ltd. Phone No.56603317/8/9 |
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I am working in a tele - marketing company.
I have no answer more than 100 calls per day and at times, I become rude
when I answer clients who start complaining in an abusive manner. Can you
suggest how I should improve my telephone manners and mind control over
abusive clients? |
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Dear Ravi, the customer is always
right. Patience and perseverance should be your biggest virtues. Every
time you get a call you have to learn to treat the call in the same manner
as the first call of the day. Every time you answer the call rudely (I
know its merely because of work pressure), it becomes a moment of
truth. And yes, not to forget, never disagree with the customer.
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My Body Language is not comfortable when I
go out for parties and people stare at me. Is body
language really important when one goes out for
meeting and parties?
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There are two types of communication skills
: Verbal and Non - verbal. Verbal is when you
speak and nonverbal is when the body speaks. Non -
verbal communication skills from the body
languages. To have a good body language is vital
and a major factor in judging one's personality.
For more information on body language, call the
personality school at 22029541 / 42 |
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garygucci2000@hotmail.com to get your
queries answered by personality expert Gautam
Garry Guptaa, Director (personality development
and corporate training division) of The
Personality School Mumbai. Or call on 65259077 / 9769821729 |
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what is difference between public speaking
and personality development ? |
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Sandeep Jain |
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Thank you for asking, Sandeep. Public
speaking is to do with the vocal aspect of an individual (i.e. how to
speak effectively, voice culture, etc). Personality is to do with
presentation techniques (i.e. communication skills, body language,
positive attitude etc) public speaking can be a very important factor in
determining one's personality, though! |
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Dear Garry, What is the most important part
of a resume or bio - data ? Is it the educational
qualification or the work experience ? |
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Khushro, when applying for a job, the
most important part of the resume is the work experience. Even if it is the
first job you are applying for, there must be a mention of some
involvement with productivity in your academic
life (e g. collecting funds for school charity,
active participation in the college festival,
creating new strategies to bring about change of
any sort... basically ways to show that you
possess an industrious nature). Do not only list
the jobs that you have accomplished, but describe
them in detail. |
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Where can I get
information on cell centre training ? |
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To get information
on cell centre training. cell The Personality
School on 22029541 / 42 |
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queries, do not be afraid to ask, write to us at
garygucci2000@hotmail.com |
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Gautam Garry Guptaa Director Personality
Development & Corporate Training Division The
Personality School Mumbai
Tel No : 65259077 / 9769821729 |
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Hi Garry, I have a
habit of stammering in public, which leaves a very
bad impression of me. Can you suggest how I can
improve and also recommend books that I can refer
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Manasi |
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Hi Manasi,
stammering is a physiological problem and can be
best cured by a speech therapist. It really cannot
be cured through books. Your best bet would be to
call up a good hospital such as leelavati and
speak with somebody in the voice clinic
department. Mata Laxmi Hospital at Sion would also
be able to help you. |
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Hi Garry, can you
recommend books that can help improve body
language |
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Amit |
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Amit, you can get
books on body language at Strand, Sterling Book
Stall (Fountain), Danai (Khar) and Granth
(Goregoan). |
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I am an electronic
engineer. I hesitate while speaking in English but
my written communication is good. Can you suggest
a way in which I can overcome this problem ? |
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Mr. Shaikh, don't
worry at all about your problem with speaking in
English. It is extremely common. There are two
areas that you can work upon, the vocal (Public
speaking) and verbal (fluency and pronunciation),
For more information, call Reena at The
Personality School |
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My sister is
studying in class 12, Home Science at SNDT. She's
highly confused as to what to do after 12th,
Please guide us on available courses and about
foreign institutes in Mumbai. |
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Dear Gunjan, you are
going through the same problems that I did when I
was in class XII. There are good counselors in
Mumbai who could give your sister Direction and
make a wonderful career plan for her. One such
counselor is ECO Pvt. Ltd. The phone number is
56603317/8/9 |
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garygucci2000@hotmail.com to get your
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and corporate training division) of The
Personality School Mumbai. Or call on 65259077 / 9769821729 |
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